Hello out there in blog-o-sphere land,
So, I recently got into a Facebook fight about a cause that is something that makes me a bit angry. I am 32. I have one child. I am also pro-choice.
I am pro-choice because what another woman chooses to do with her body is none of my business. However, I have an unpopular opinion(apparently)in the pro-choice community. The current stipulations in place allow for abortion, in most places, up to 20 weeks. The specific item that sparked me to voice my apparently unpopular opinion was a demographic from NARAL. It is a poster that says something to the effect of abortion being "under fire" because some states are banning abortions beyond that point. So, if we look at it this way, 20 weeks is 5 months. Beyond 20 weeks, at 24 weeks to be precise, a fetus could support itself outside of its mother's womb. So, beyond 20 weeks, when does it become an issue of a "woman's right to choose" and murder? Now, I know that anyone that is pro-life would argue that it is always murder. I respect that opinion, but, I do not share it. My pro-choice opinion is that beyond 20 weeks, abortion should no longer be an option, unless there is a risk to the mother, the fetus, or both. My pro-choice opinion is that abortion should not be used as birth control, because it isn't. When I was 19, I had an abortion at just under 13 weeks. I left that office with a year's supply of birth control. A. Year.
Now, here's the really unpopular part. While I agree that there are extenuating circumstances that would lead to a woman being 5 months pregnant and not knowing, but, I feel that is extremely rare. Yes, there are women that don't have regular periods. There are women that receive false negatives. There are rapes. There are all sorts of things that could happen to result in a "crisis pregnancy." Stupidity and denial are not examples of a "crisis pregnancy." If you are a healthy, sexually active woman, you have to have a little accountability for your actions. If you are a female, in the clinic, for the second time in a year to have an abortion, YOU aren't being responsible. I still agree that it isn't any of my business, but, it should be YOUR business. I have had an abortion, and it is not something that I would ever want to do again. This was YEARS before I had a healthy son. It was almost 10 years before I CHOSE to have a child. Being sexually active, in most cases, is a choice. Choosing NOT to use birth control is also a choice. If you continually have unprotected sex and use abortion as your birth control, that isn't what should be happening. However, that is just my opinion. We, as a nation, are going backwards in the sex education world. We are NOT teaching kids things that they should know, as a whole. Not just our education system, but, we as parents are not taking the responsibility we should to educate our children about sex and being responsible.
So....there it is. In a nutshell. I am pro-choice. However, I think there HAS to be a line. If the fetus you are aborting could support itself outside of your womb, it becomes something else. I would never vote for legislation against abortion because, at the end of the day, it really isn't my business. However, I think we, as pro-choicers, need to be honest with ourselves. At what point does abortion stop being an option? For me, that point is 24 weeks. Anything beyond 24 weeks is partial-birth abortion and that shouldn't be legal. That IS destroying a life that could exist outside YOUR body. It stops being JUST YOUR CHOICE. What we really need is not abortion reform, but, sexual education reform. I do realize that there are special circumstances. I am not including "crisis" scenarios in my opinion. If the mother, the fetus, or both are at risk, then that would be a special circumstance. General abortion should stop at 20 weeks. All insurance carriers SHOULD cover birth control. PERIOD. Banning abortions won't stop abortion. We need to educate everyone. We, as a society, need accountability. I am a woman. I am a mother. I am pro-choice. Abortion should not be something that is done illegally in back-alleys. It should not, however, be used as a form of birth control. If abortion was meant to be birth control, it wouldn't have another name. I don't think we should be teaching or preaching abstinence, because in most people, that isn't going to happen. We should be teaching safer practices. We should be educating our youth about birth control and responsible sexual practices. It isn't my business, but it should be yours. It IS your choice. It IS your body. Be. responsible.
That's my two cents.
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
Sunday, December 29, 2013
Judgey McJudgerson
Hello Interwebs,
Have a little break from the real world for a bit, so, I thought I'd drop by and speak my piece on judging. We all do it. At one point or another, we have seen something or heard something that made us say to ourselves that "they're doing it wrong." Or, "they're doing it right." As a parent, I find myself having little moments of "Man, I'm not such a bad mom after all." But even that is judgement. It takes all kinds of kinds to make this world go round, so, why judge?
I, for one, think it is in our nature to see something different and assess its difference for ourselves. What we do with that information is what is important. Do you see something that is different and say, "That's not the right way, but, maybe they're just having a tough time." Or do you say "That's not the right way, and they're a jerk for doing that." I am personally very adamant in my beliefs, so it is harder for me to just accept that everyone doesn't think like me. However, I know that my way of thinking is different, so, knowing that there are other points of view is in my nature. I may not always accept other's beliefs or ways of doing things, but, I respect their right to do and say as they like. I may not always live my life without judging other people, but, I try my best to have an internal dialogue about my thoughts before I form an opinion on things. I can see a mother out, losing her shit, and say to myself "She needs to calm down," but, I can also say "Maybe she's been having a day like I had a couple days ago." To assume that every person everywhere is judging you is a little narcissistic, but, that doesn't mean that it isn't happening. Because let's face, as you're reading this blog post, you've probably passed judgement on 37 other things. For instance, Phil Robertson's words, or Beyonce's hair, or Miley Cyrus's tongue....
Everyone is fighting their own battles every day. Some days are better than others. That does not, however, mean that you seeing one person at a bad moment means that they are a bad person. Sometimes it is really just a bad moment in a particularly bad day. Sometimes they really are bad people, but, that is, generally speaking, not information that you would be privy to. So the next time you see a frazzled mother snapping at her kids, feel free to point your finger of judgement, but, take the time to discount your own frivolous opinion because you don't know what that person is like when they're at home. Maybe she was just having a particularly bad moment in a garbage kind of day. We all have bad moments. We all have bad days. There is no person who has their poop completely in a group. So, point your finger and make your judgment. I can take it. Just know that, at some point, there will be a finger pointed at you. Know that the person you are judging could have had some massively stressful, migraine inducing moment that day. Feel free to judge and form opinions, but, be responsible enough to not put yourself on a pedestal for too long. Someday, that frazzled mom(or dad)could be you. Judge responsibly.
Have a little break from the real world for a bit, so, I thought I'd drop by and speak my piece on judging. We all do it. At one point or another, we have seen something or heard something that made us say to ourselves that "they're doing it wrong." Or, "they're doing it right." As a parent, I find myself having little moments of "Man, I'm not such a bad mom after all." But even that is judgement. It takes all kinds of kinds to make this world go round, so, why judge?
I, for one, think it is in our nature to see something different and assess its difference for ourselves. What we do with that information is what is important. Do you see something that is different and say, "That's not the right way, but, maybe they're just having a tough time." Or do you say "That's not the right way, and they're a jerk for doing that." I am personally very adamant in my beliefs, so it is harder for me to just accept that everyone doesn't think like me. However, I know that my way of thinking is different, so, knowing that there are other points of view is in my nature. I may not always accept other's beliefs or ways of doing things, but, I respect their right to do and say as they like. I may not always live my life without judging other people, but, I try my best to have an internal dialogue about my thoughts before I form an opinion on things. I can see a mother out, losing her shit, and say to myself "She needs to calm down," but, I can also say "Maybe she's been having a day like I had a couple days ago." To assume that every person everywhere is judging you is a little narcissistic, but, that doesn't mean that it isn't happening. Because let's face, as you're reading this blog post, you've probably passed judgement on 37 other things. For instance, Phil Robertson's words, or Beyonce's hair, or Miley Cyrus's tongue....
Everyone is fighting their own battles every day. Some days are better than others. That does not, however, mean that you seeing one person at a bad moment means that they are a bad person. Sometimes it is really just a bad moment in a particularly bad day. Sometimes they really are bad people, but, that is, generally speaking, not information that you would be privy to. So the next time you see a frazzled mother snapping at her kids, feel free to point your finger of judgement, but, take the time to discount your own frivolous opinion because you don't know what that person is like when they're at home. Maybe she was just having a particularly bad moment in a garbage kind of day. We all have bad moments. We all have bad days. There is no person who has their poop completely in a group. So, point your finger and make your judgment. I can take it. Just know that, at some point, there will be a finger pointed at you. Know that the person you are judging could have had some massively stressful, migraine inducing moment that day. Feel free to judge and form opinions, but, be responsible enough to not put yourself on a pedestal for too long. Someday, that frazzled mom(or dad)could be you. Judge responsibly.
Saturday, December 7, 2013
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
Misplaced Anger
So, as I'm trolling my news feed on Facebook...I come across this story about a woman that is sneaking around with a married man......
Now, I don't condone it, but, my beef is that the women responding to the story are shaming the woman for having the affair.
My question is this....Why are we, as women, so quick to decide that it's all the "other woman's" fault? Why are we so quick to assume that the other woman is some magical temptress with super powers of desire and that our cheating husbands or boyfriends are blameless in the situation. I know that in situations like this you want someone to blame, but, shouldn't the blame first go to the person that decided to cheat? I am not saying that the woman is totally without blame. Especially in the circumstance that this woman was in. She knew he was married and allowed the interaction anyway, so, she has blame in the situation too. However, there was even a woman posting on this thread saying that she would physically assault this woman if she were the wife. Why fight for a relationship and a man that you obviously had no value or importance to? Why is it always the "other woman's" fault or the "other man's" fault? The blame for being a "homewrecker" should go on the shoulders of the person that initially wrecked the home. The person that actually wrecked the home is the person that chose to cheat. Stop misplacing your anger. If you're angry with someone, direct the anger at them. If you hold no value to someone, move along. If he or she is cheating on you, you hold no value to them. Value yourself more. Move on. That's all for now.
Now, I don't condone it, but, my beef is that the women responding to the story are shaming the woman for having the affair.
My question is this....Why are we, as women, so quick to decide that it's all the "other woman's" fault? Why are we so quick to assume that the other woman is some magical temptress with super powers of desire and that our cheating husbands or boyfriends are blameless in the situation. I know that in situations like this you want someone to blame, but, shouldn't the blame first go to the person that decided to cheat? I am not saying that the woman is totally without blame. Especially in the circumstance that this woman was in. She knew he was married and allowed the interaction anyway, so, she has blame in the situation too. However, there was even a woman posting on this thread saying that she would physically assault this woman if she were the wife. Why fight for a relationship and a man that you obviously had no value or importance to? Why is it always the "other woman's" fault or the "other man's" fault? The blame for being a "homewrecker" should go on the shoulders of the person that initially wrecked the home. The person that actually wrecked the home is the person that chose to cheat. Stop misplacing your anger. If you're angry with someone, direct the anger at them. If you hold no value to someone, move along. If he or she is cheating on you, you hold no value to them. Value yourself more. Move on. That's all for now.
Thursday, September 12, 2013
To Be or Not To Be....Religious.
Hello all. So, I have been thinking a lot lately about religion. It is a slippery slope, I suppose. A slope that could lead to heated debate and anger, but, I am going to chime in with my opinion and what I believe to be true.
With that said, I am a "nature and science" type person. If I were going to put myself in a religion box, it would most likely be Wiccan. However, I am a deep believer in Science and Logic. On the religious side of things, I have none. I have never had a religion. I wasn't forced into a religion by my parents. I truly believe that they wanted me to believe whatever I wanted to believe. Even if, at the end of the day, that meant I was an Atheist that didn't believe in a God at all. They wanted it to be my choice. I have a son now and I too, want it to be his choice. I don't want him to be forced to make decisions about his soul until he has the potential to understand what religion is. I want him to believe what makes sense to him.
Having said this, I will now say that I am, in fact, a believer. However, that does not mean I have a blind faith, or that I follow scripture or even truly believe the Bible to be a good reference point for my life. I still believe that Science and Logic should be used when practicing your "faith." Science allows for ALL possibilities. In my experience, faith is not always so limitless. Perhaps, that is the wrong wording. Faith, itself, can be limitless, but, religion perhaps not. I know that not all religions are the same. I also know that not all practitioners are the same. However, History shows that there are a lot more people that believe religion to be a thing of absolutes than a fluid, liquid thing. I believe that, according to Science and Biology, there has to be a male, God, and a female, Goddess. That's just how it works. Men can't make people by themselves. IF the "Eve came from Adam's rib" story was true, it would, in fact be, Adam and Steve. If a person was made from Adam's rib, it would have to be another male. Scientifically speaking, you can clone people, well things, but, they are exact copies of the original. If I took a rib out to make a person, that person would be a copy of me in it's entirety. It would not be a male copy of me.
Now most of the reason the religious debate has been running rampant through my head is that the father of my child, the man I hope to marry, is Catholic. In order for me, an unbaptized heathen, to be able to marry him without him giving up his rights as a Catholic, our marriage has to receive the blessing of the Church. I felt like I should write my thoughts down a bit before I had to tell the Father about my stance. My beliefs are slightly less than traditional, especially where a Catholic priest would be involved. I believe in God, but I also in Goddess. I believe that there has to be both, because without one there can't be the other. I believe it is necessary to balance all things. Without Light, there can't be Dark. Without Famine, there can't be Feast. I believe that it is important to teach love. I believe it is important to teach acceptance. I believe it is important to do no harm. I believe it is important to have kindness. I believe it is important to be good and do good. I don't believe it matters what "team" you play for. I don't believe you have to be baptized to get into Heaven. I believe that if there is a Heaven and you are a kind, loving, decent person then, you're in. I will also say that the "being kind" bit is something that my Mamaw instilled in me. She had no active religion, but, she taught me to be kind to everyone because "you never know who could be Jesus." It's silly, but, it's true. I believe that if we are judged, it is by the actions that nobody else really sees. We are judged by the people we are "at home." Not the people we pretend to be at work, or in church. Let's face it, everyone is on their best behavior in church. The same guy that gambled away their child's college tuition is a saint in the church. The same woman that cheats on her husband while he's away...yeah...she's a saint at church. That person that cussed at homeless person....they're all there...gleaming in their holiness at church.
The true answer to my question of faith, for me, is no. Religion scares the shit out of me. There have so many terrible, awful, unspeakable things done in the name of religion. So, why would I want to be on the side of anyone or anything that has caused so much devastation? The truth is, I don't. I don't want to sign my soul away to an organization that perpetrated so much violence for their cause. The truth of the matter is that God and Goddess are ALL things. THEY are everywhere. They aren't just in church. They are in the cool air after a sweltering heat. They are in the rain after a drought. They are in the laugh of my son. They are in the light of his eyes. They are in me, so, I don't NEED to be on any one religion's "side." Religion, all religion, is based on a book(or a version of)written by Man thousands of years ago. That book doesn't have all the answers. That book was meant to be read by people that aren't as smart as we are now. We know SO much now, why does this book that was written all these years ago have to be the ONLY explanation for things? There are no dinosaurs in the Bible, and yet, we know they existed because we have their bones as proof. Thousands of years ago, we KNEW the Earth was flat. Today we KNOW that isn't true. Thousands of years ago we KNEW that God created Man. Today we know that might not be true, at least not Man as we are today. Our genetic code is so similar to everything else that Darwin's theory of Evolution makes sense. If we aren't evolved from the same source, then how can our code be so similar to everything else? The Big Bang theory makes sense to me. BOOM! And there was a speck of life. That life turned into more lives. Each of those lives because one version of something, and then another, and then another, all based on need. If evolution didn't exist....we would all be fish. There wouldn't be people because the Earth was mostly water for so much time. We evolved to things that crawled because we needed to. We evolved to things that walked because we needed to. Nature works in terms of need.
That may go against some of my other beliefs, but, I can accept that all my beliefs don't agree. I don't believe in Adam and Eve. I believe in God AND Goddess. I believe that Jesus existed and he was persecuted and he died because no one believed what he wanted to teach. I believe that he was a beautiful human being and that some of his "followers" could stand to be more like him. I believe that you can't have two faces. I don't believe that there HAS to be a Heaven for me to do good, be good, and put good into the Universe. I believe that it just the right thing to do. I believe that I can judge no one for their sins and transgressions because I have my own.
At the end of all this...I believe I have answered my own question. Not to be. Not all religious people are awful, hateful, judgmental people. Some of them are just religious. I don't think it is wrong to have a religion. I just don't want one. Religions are mostly awful. Most, in their own right, have done terrible things in the name of their specific religion. Just because someone doesn't believe exactly the way you do doesn't mean they are wrong. It means that their faith moves them in a different direction. Just the fact that there ARE so many religions would lead me to believe that there has always been at least a few folks that disagreed with one set of beliefs somewhere along the way. So, how can any one religion be better than another? This is especially true for all forms of the Christian religions. If there is, in fact, only God in the Christian religion, why are there so many different sects? Shouldn't there be just one church? One god. One church. But, there are hundreds of sects of Christianity, so, who's wrong? Who's right? None of them if their religion and their teachings are more important than being kind and good.
Be good. Be kind. Keep your soul for yourself until it's time for you to give it back. Because I also believe that maybe if you give your soul over to a religion....you soul inherits all the wrong-doing of that religion. Your soul becomes forever tainted by the actions and misdeeds of the people before you. Love everyone. Even the people you hate. Love them, just a little.
With that said, I am a "nature and science" type person. If I were going to put myself in a religion box, it would most likely be Wiccan. However, I am a deep believer in Science and Logic. On the religious side of things, I have none. I have never had a religion. I wasn't forced into a religion by my parents. I truly believe that they wanted me to believe whatever I wanted to believe. Even if, at the end of the day, that meant I was an Atheist that didn't believe in a God at all. They wanted it to be my choice. I have a son now and I too, want it to be his choice. I don't want him to be forced to make decisions about his soul until he has the potential to understand what religion is. I want him to believe what makes sense to him.
Having said this, I will now say that I am, in fact, a believer. However, that does not mean I have a blind faith, or that I follow scripture or even truly believe the Bible to be a good reference point for my life. I still believe that Science and Logic should be used when practicing your "faith." Science allows for ALL possibilities. In my experience, faith is not always so limitless. Perhaps, that is the wrong wording. Faith, itself, can be limitless, but, religion perhaps not. I know that not all religions are the same. I also know that not all practitioners are the same. However, History shows that there are a lot more people that believe religion to be a thing of absolutes than a fluid, liquid thing. I believe that, according to Science and Biology, there has to be a male, God, and a female, Goddess. That's just how it works. Men can't make people by themselves. IF the "Eve came from Adam's rib" story was true, it would, in fact be, Adam and Steve. If a person was made from Adam's rib, it would have to be another male. Scientifically speaking, you can clone people, well things, but, they are exact copies of the original. If I took a rib out to make a person, that person would be a copy of me in it's entirety. It would not be a male copy of me.
Now most of the reason the religious debate has been running rampant through my head is that the father of my child, the man I hope to marry, is Catholic. In order for me, an unbaptized heathen, to be able to marry him without him giving up his rights as a Catholic, our marriage has to receive the blessing of the Church. I felt like I should write my thoughts down a bit before I had to tell the Father about my stance. My beliefs are slightly less than traditional, especially where a Catholic priest would be involved. I believe in God, but I also in Goddess. I believe that there has to be both, because without one there can't be the other. I believe it is necessary to balance all things. Without Light, there can't be Dark. Without Famine, there can't be Feast. I believe that it is important to teach love. I believe it is important to teach acceptance. I believe it is important to do no harm. I believe it is important to have kindness. I believe it is important to be good and do good. I don't believe it matters what "team" you play for. I don't believe you have to be baptized to get into Heaven. I believe that if there is a Heaven and you are a kind, loving, decent person then, you're in. I will also say that the "being kind" bit is something that my Mamaw instilled in me. She had no active religion, but, she taught me to be kind to everyone because "you never know who could be Jesus." It's silly, but, it's true. I believe that if we are judged, it is by the actions that nobody else really sees. We are judged by the people we are "at home." Not the people we pretend to be at work, or in church. Let's face it, everyone is on their best behavior in church. The same guy that gambled away their child's college tuition is a saint in the church. The same woman that cheats on her husband while he's away...yeah...she's a saint at church. That person that cussed at homeless person....they're all there...gleaming in their holiness at church.
The true answer to my question of faith, for me, is no. Religion scares the shit out of me. There have so many terrible, awful, unspeakable things done in the name of religion. So, why would I want to be on the side of anyone or anything that has caused so much devastation? The truth is, I don't. I don't want to sign my soul away to an organization that perpetrated so much violence for their cause. The truth of the matter is that God and Goddess are ALL things. THEY are everywhere. They aren't just in church. They are in the cool air after a sweltering heat. They are in the rain after a drought. They are in the laugh of my son. They are in the light of his eyes. They are in me, so, I don't NEED to be on any one religion's "side." Religion, all religion, is based on a book(or a version of)written by Man thousands of years ago. That book doesn't have all the answers. That book was meant to be read by people that aren't as smart as we are now. We know SO much now, why does this book that was written all these years ago have to be the ONLY explanation for things? There are no dinosaurs in the Bible, and yet, we know they existed because we have their bones as proof. Thousands of years ago, we KNEW the Earth was flat. Today we KNOW that isn't true. Thousands of years ago we KNEW that God created Man. Today we know that might not be true, at least not Man as we are today. Our genetic code is so similar to everything else that Darwin's theory of Evolution makes sense. If we aren't evolved from the same source, then how can our code be so similar to everything else? The Big Bang theory makes sense to me. BOOM! And there was a speck of life. That life turned into more lives. Each of those lives because one version of something, and then another, and then another, all based on need. If evolution didn't exist....we would all be fish. There wouldn't be people because the Earth was mostly water for so much time. We evolved to things that crawled because we needed to. We evolved to things that walked because we needed to. Nature works in terms of need.
That may go against some of my other beliefs, but, I can accept that all my beliefs don't agree. I don't believe in Adam and Eve. I believe in God AND Goddess. I believe that Jesus existed and he was persecuted and he died because no one believed what he wanted to teach. I believe that he was a beautiful human being and that some of his "followers" could stand to be more like him. I believe that you can't have two faces. I don't believe that there HAS to be a Heaven for me to do good, be good, and put good into the Universe. I believe that it just the right thing to do. I believe that I can judge no one for their sins and transgressions because I have my own.
At the end of all this...I believe I have answered my own question. Not to be. Not all religious people are awful, hateful, judgmental people. Some of them are just religious. I don't think it is wrong to have a religion. I just don't want one. Religions are mostly awful. Most, in their own right, have done terrible things in the name of their specific religion. Just because someone doesn't believe exactly the way you do doesn't mean they are wrong. It means that their faith moves them in a different direction. Just the fact that there ARE so many religions would lead me to believe that there has always been at least a few folks that disagreed with one set of beliefs somewhere along the way. So, how can any one religion be better than another? This is especially true for all forms of the Christian religions. If there is, in fact, only God in the Christian religion, why are there so many different sects? Shouldn't there be just one church? One god. One church. But, there are hundreds of sects of Christianity, so, who's wrong? Who's right? None of them if their religion and their teachings are more important than being kind and good.
Be good. Be kind. Keep your soul for yourself until it's time for you to give it back. Because I also believe that maybe if you give your soul over to a religion....you soul inherits all the wrong-doing of that religion. Your soul becomes forever tainted by the actions and misdeeds of the people before you. Love everyone. Even the people you hate. Love them, just a little.
Saturday, May 25, 2013
Get OVER it, already.
Ok, so, this is gonna be a little bit of a rant. All of the posts that I follow on Facebook....I find myself hiding more and more things everyday. Even the stuff that I truly believe in, like being pro-choice and being pro-same sex marriage rights. I am very liberal. However, I think that there are just so many things that we should just get over. If you are against abortion, don't have one. Plain and simple. I don't personally think an abortion should be something that you do over and over and use as birth control, because, let's face it....it's not birth control because there is already multiple forms of birth control available on the market for our use. It's not like it was in the 50's and 60's where birth control and condoms weren't readily available. However, it is not my choice to make. I have made that choice. I was 19. I was unemployed. I lived with my mother. The man that was the father was not a good anything. He drank, a lot. He put his hands on me, more than once. So, why would I want to bring a child into that situation? At any rate, it's not for me to say that someone else can't make that choice. And it's not for you, either. If you don't like it, that's fine, but, it's not up to you to make it illegal for someone else. It's none of your business, so, get over it. And all of these people out there mouthing off about gay marriage being against the Bible, or against God's law. That book also says that it isn't for you to judge. The bible says that the only judge is God, so, if they are sinning and are going against God's law, their judgement will be had on their day. It's none of you business. Get over it. A gay couple getting married WILL NOT, I repeat, WILL NOT affect your heterosexual marriage. Also, the weapon of choice is Leviticus. And that book, folks, is in the Old Testament. Which has since been replaced with the New Testament. The Old Testament is not supposed to be the way we live anymore. Gay marriage is no different a civil right than removing the division between african americans and caucasian people. It wasn't all that long ago that my best friend and I would never have met because she is half black. She might never have been because her parents were an interracial couple....if there hadn't been a HUGE civil rights movement to remove that separation, my best friend might never have been born. What I'm trying to say is that we are huge melting pot here in America if we would just melt a little. We spend so much time hating each other's differences that we miss each other's wonderful similarities. We are all HUMAN. We all love. We all bleed. We all cry. And we are all going to die. Constantly fighting each other and spreading hate will only alienate us. Hating someone because their skin isn't the same color, or because they are gay is like hating someone because they're tall....or blonde....or have green eyes. None of these things are choices. For all of you that think being gay is a choice, think about when you chose to be straight. Oh, you can't pinpoint it? Yeah, that's because it isn't a choice.So the moral of the story is, some people are gay. Some people are straight. Some people have brown skin. Some people have peach skin. Some people even have yellow skin. Get over it. Because if you did, you wouldn't have to hate so much and waste so much energy hating people and things that could care less if you do. You are missing the person that could be your one true love, or your best friend. You are missing things. They are not. Because while are you wasting your energy hating them, they are having wonderful lives with people that love them.
Get over it.
Get over it.
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Gearing up.
Ok, this one is gonna be lighthearted. I just have to say that I cannot WAIT for summer. I am psyched for shorts and swimming. I have already picked out my new bathing suit, and, it is awesome if I do say so myself. And, at only $30, it's a steal. And it's from Walmart! Who knew? There is a link attached to Walmart, so you can check it out for yourselves!
It comes in 2 solid colors and 2 super cute retro prints. (I am going with the anchors.)It has a cute, fun, feminine ruffle on the top, a simple rectangular neckline, and ruching on the side. I am sort of obsessed with things that remind me of days gone by. However, I wouldn't say that I really fit into that, sort of, rock-a-billy/pin-up aesthetic. I like it, but, only in little bits and bobs. (at least for my personal wearing pleasure, I LOVE to look at girls all decked out in the pin-up style.) I am also obsessed with dresses in the summer, because let's face it...sometimes you need to air out the cookie. So, a new site that I have discovered is eShakti . This site offers SO many customizations that it will blow your mind. They have extended sizing, length options, and sleeve options. The prices aren't ridiculous either. It is a little pricey, but, it is reasonable for a dress in a plus size. The tops are a little more heavily priced, but, still very good selection. Everything has a little bit of a June Cleaver flavor, so, if you are into that sort of thing, this is the site for you. Old Navy has a great selection of plus sized apparel, and H&M is good for trendy plus sized clothes. Target is also getting in the plus sized groove with their new selections. Some of which are both a great deal, and, really cute and on trend. So many stores are finally realizing that we fat women actually have fashion sense. We do actually prefer clothes that have a shape...and we don't sit around the house all day in Mu-Mus. Another store that offers cute deals is Forever 21. They also have a plus size line now! So, go forth and shop, my lovelies! I wanna see those legs! Summer is here. Let em have it!
It comes in 2 solid colors and 2 super cute retro prints. (I am going with the anchors.)It has a cute, fun, feminine ruffle on the top, a simple rectangular neckline, and ruching on the side. I am sort of obsessed with things that remind me of days gone by. However, I wouldn't say that I really fit into that, sort of, rock-a-billy/pin-up aesthetic. I like it, but, only in little bits and bobs. (at least for my personal wearing pleasure, I LOVE to look at girls all decked out in the pin-up style.) I am also obsessed with dresses in the summer, because let's face it...sometimes you need to air out the cookie. So, a new site that I have discovered is eShakti . This site offers SO many customizations that it will blow your mind. They have extended sizing, length options, and sleeve options. The prices aren't ridiculous either. It is a little pricey, but, it is reasonable for a dress in a plus size. The tops are a little more heavily priced, but, still very good selection. Everything has a little bit of a June Cleaver flavor, so, if you are into that sort of thing, this is the site for you. Old Navy has a great selection of plus sized apparel, and H&M is good for trendy plus sized clothes. Target is also getting in the plus sized groove with their new selections. Some of which are both a great deal, and, really cute and on trend. So many stores are finally realizing that we fat women actually have fashion sense. We do actually prefer clothes that have a shape...and we don't sit around the house all day in Mu-Mus. Another store that offers cute deals is Forever 21. They also have a plus size line now! So, go forth and shop, my lovelies! I wanna see those legs! Summer is here. Let em have it!
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